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SOGIE or so wrong?

ANO BA ANG SOGIE?

Sexual orientation, gender identity and expression.

Bale ang basic na gender na alam at tanggap ng lahat ay lalaki at babae. Sa patuloy na pagkilala natin sa isa’t isa, lumabas ang mga bakla (lalaking may pusong babae) at tomboy (babaeng may pusong lalaki).

Pero, hindi lahat ay lalaki o babae lang. Or bakla, o tomboy lang. Komplikado ang gender. At layunin ng SOGIE na i-guide ang lahat para mas maintindihan natin ang gray area na ‘to.

Sinasabi ng iba na “hindi yan importante”, “ang daming mas malalaking issue”, “pinapakomplika nyo lang ang buhay”. Pero, sobrang laking parte ng gender sa buhay ng isang tao. Eto ang bubuo sa kung sino sya bilang tao.

ANO BA ANG PROBLEMA?

Sa, dahil nga hindi pa ito malinaw sa lahat, maraming taong nasa gray area na ‘to na dini-discriminate, nilalayuan, jina-judge, nilalait, binu-bully, sinasaktan at pinapatay dahil lang sa kung sino sila, kung paano sila manamit, at kung sino ang gusto nilang mahalin.

Oo, nakalagay sa constitution na dapat pantay-patay tayo lahat, at respetuhin natin ang isa’t isa, kahit sino pa sila, kahit saan man sila galing at anuman ang paniniwala nila. Lahat tayo ay tao at lahat tayo ay may human rights.

Pero, dahil nga malabo ang gender issue sa karamihan, kapag naagrabyado ang isang tao dahil lang dito, madalas ay hindi ito napapansin, o kaya’y wala na silang laban.

At kung ikaw ay pinagkakaitan na ng pantay na laban sa buhay, kung lagi kang talo dahil lang sa kung sino ka, kung lagi kang mali dahil lang sa kung sinong mahal mo, ang buhay mo ay mawawalan ng katuturan. Kung sa mata ng lipunan, hindi ka dapat nag-eexist, magkakaron ka ng point sa buhay mo na kukwestyunin mo na din kung dapat ka ngang mag-exist.

Kaya hindi na rin mabilang ang mga sumuko na sa gantong sistema at sila na ang tumapos sa buhay nila kesa araw-araw silang patayin ng mundong hindi sila matanggap.

KAILANGAN PA BA ANG SOGIE EQUALITY BILL?

Kailangan ng Pilipinas ng isang malinaw na anti-discrimination bill na magpoprotekta laban sa ganitong pagsagasa sa basic human rights ng isang tao, dahil lang hindi sya ‘normal’ na lalaki o babae.

Kailangan nating mabago ang pinaka-basic na idea ng tao sa gender at maibukas ang isipan ng bawat isa sa konsepto na ito, mula bata pa lang, at kahit saang sulok ng bansa, para talagang masabing pantay-pantay tayong lahat.

Hangga’t wala tayong tinatapakang tao o wala tayong ginagawang masama, hindi dapat magamit ng kung sino man ang gender natin laban sa atin.

Ito ang sinusulong ng SOGIE Equality Bill.

#SOGIEEqualityBill

LINKS:

*Kung gusto mong mas maintindihan ang konsepto ng SOGIE, panuorin ang 2 videos na ‘to:

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SOGIE PART 1 – https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.rappler.com/move-ph/236244-explainer-things-to-know-about-sogie

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SOGIE PART 2 – https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.rappler.com/move-ph/237754-explainer-things-to-know-about-sogie-part-2

*Para sa buong kopya ng bill, maaari mong i-download ang PDF file mula sa website ng Kongreso o Senado.

http://congress.gov.ph/legisdocs/?v=billsresults#18

*Here’s a very detailed and informative article about this issue, from The Philippine Commission on Women:

Enacting an Anti-Discrimination Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Law – https://www.pcw.gov.ph/wpla/enacting-anti-discrimination-based-sexual-orientation-and-gender-identity-law

*Here’s an example of how real this discrimination is in our country. Report from Human Rights Watch:

“Just Let Us Be”
Discrimination Against LGBT Students in the Philippines – https://www.hrw.org/report/2017/06/21/just-let-us-be/discrimination-against-lgbt-students-philippines

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Teka

Ang daming tumatakbo sa isip ko minsan, hindi na ko makahabol.

Teka, isa isa lang.

Ang daming mga taong kala ko anjan lang, pero wala naman.

Teka, nasan na kayo.

Ang dami kong nasayang na oras sa mga walang kwentang bagay.

Teka, pwede bang rewind.

Ang dami kong taong nadi-disappoint. Ako mismo sobrang disappointed na sa sarili ko.

Teka, ‘di ako perfect.

Ang dami kong gustong gawin na ‘di ko masimulan. Ang dami kong pangarap na parang di ko na maaabot.

Teka, pedeng stop time muna.

Ang dami kong nararamdaman, feeling ko pabagsak na katawan ko.

Teka, pwede bang magpahinga.

Ang dami kong problema, wala akong masolusyonan. Nadagdagan pa nang nadadagdagan nang nadadagdagan.

Teka, pucha naman o.

Teka lang.

Teka nga.

Teka, nasan ba ko?

Nasa kwarto ako mag-isa, nakaharap sa laptop, nakatulala sa Netflix. Nasa katabi kong kwarto yung bestfriend kong gising pa dahil rinig ko pa yung Kadenang Ginto sa TV. Umuulan sa labas. Nagyayayang lumabas sina Paul. Nagtext pala si Mama, nangangamusta.

Teka nga, mapuntahan nga tong hindot sa kabila at baka may iba naman syang problema, sawa na ko sa mga problema ko.

“Teeeehhhh! Ta ka! ‘Di mo na tinigilan yang Kadenang Ginto! Ikakadena kita jan sa TV. Tara na nga, sama tayo kina Paul. Tawagan ko lang si Mama.”

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Writer’s Notes:

It’s normal to be anxious, to worry about things that may or may not happen.

But when anxiety takes over your life, what I’ve found to be most useful is the “mindfulness” technique.

“Mindfulness is about paying attention to daily life and the things we typically rush through. It’s about turning down the volume in your mind by coming back to the body.”

Take back control of your life by taking one step at a time. Look around you. That right there is your present moment. Live it.

Reference: https://www.healthline.com/health/mindfulness-tricks-to-reduce-anxiety#1

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Sleeping Quarters (Monologue)

Ako si Darwin. Pero kung tinatamad kayo, pwede namang Da na lang.

Masipag akong tao e, pero madali akong tamarin. Sa call center ako nagtatrabaho. Tas ang paborito kong lugar sa ofis e ang sleeping quarters. Dun kasi ako nakakapagpahinga, nakakapagisip.

So kanina, nasa sleeping quarters ako. Habang nagpapaantok, naisip ko, ang sarap siguro maging manager no. Kasi alam nyo ba yung manager ko 24 pa lang pero may kotse na at sariling bahay! Asensado bes! (Pause) Pero naisip ko rin, naku andaming apply apply at lulusutan na butas ng karayom bago ako maging manager. So sabi ko, iba nalang.

Naisip ko, ahh, ang sarap siguro magkajowa. Kasi biruin mo, may officemate ako, ang chaka pero ang jowa, bet! Ang sarap siguro magkaganun. (Pause) Pero naisip ko, naku, makikipagdate ka, get to know get to know, naku nakakapagod. So iba na nga lang.

Ahhh! Ang pinakabongga pala e ung manalo ka sa lotto! Imaginin mo, 100 milyon! Andami kong mabibili dun! Pwede akong bumili ng kumpanya tas ako magiging manager, o kaya bumili ng jowa. Solved ang problema! (Pause) Pero naku, milyun-milyun din ang kombinasyon na pwedeng manalo, baka abutin ako ng siyam-siyam bago ako tumama.

Tas mejo inaantok nako, may narealize ako. Etong mga taong to, di naman nila makukuha ang mga gusto nila kung di sila magtyatyaga. Kaya siguro walang nangyayari sa buhay ko, dahil puro ako tulog!

Haaaay. (Buntung-hininga) Pero inaantok nako bes, sige maya na lang ulit, tulog na muna ako.

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How Being Nice Sometimes Messes You Up

I had a very enlightening talk with one of my closest friends at work earlier which made me realize that I’m still a loser, and I need to learn a few things.

I learned that I have to appreciate myself more and know my worth.

I have to know what I actually deserve based on my own expectations and not try so hard to always become what others expect me to be.

I have to know when to hold it in, and when to just let it go.

I have to know when to keep going, and when to rest.

We sometimes do so much for other people that we forget ourselves. And this defeats the purpose of living a full life.

You cannot always remove yourself from the equation when trying to be a good human being. Soon enough, you may find that you have so little of you left to even care about anything.

And that’s really when things start to go haywire. That’s when you start to question why everything doesn’t make any sense.

And you keep thinking, you’re just trying your hardest to be nice. Fuck, being nice shouldn’t be so fucking hard.

But, part of being nice is being nice to yourself too. And that involves yes, caring for people who you love, but also not putting up with other people’s bullshit, and speaking up when someone is being unreasonable to you.

It is exhausting and unhealthy for you to keep tucking away your feelings inside just because you don’t want to hurt another person’s feelings.

There’s a right time to try and fight off the pain and act okay, but make sure that you won’t get yourself in that same situation that got you hurt in the first place. Otherwise, it is your fault you keep suffering.

It’not easy to change but I firmly believe everything that happens in your life can be under your control.

Dream beautiful things but wake up and create your every moment.

You always have a choice. When you say that you don’t, that right there is your choice.

Own up to it. The only way you will be able to move forward from a challenging situation or change your life even just one bit is by taking control and taking responsibility for every little thing that happens in it.

It is not somebody else or some thing that make you you, that make you act the way you do. The moment you blame it to anything else, that’s when you lose control of your life.And that is–you guessed it– still your doing. You chose to lose control.

I’m not sure if it’s the lack of sleep that made me write all this (yeah, still working on knowing when to rest), but I guess, I’m just really happy to still learn new ways on how to work with me because really, I think we can all admit that sometimes, we perfectly know how to give advice to other people on how they should live their lives but we’re clueless on how to live ours.

Again, know your worth, not based from what anyone else thinks. And care for others, but most importantly, love yourself too.

The first step of winning is to admit you’re a loser. That’s when you start learning.

‪#‎NoteToSelf‬ #Realizations ‪#‎KwentongWin‬